Updated: Apr 22
Hey Success Magnets! It's Christina Dukes, The Success Manifestation Coach. I was really inspired to write this post after doing some reflection on Ciara's and Russel Wilson's relationship.
I know we are all calling them relationship goals, but what I realized is that there was a lot of work that they both had to do on their own before being able to attract the perfect relationship. Here are 6 life lessons to learn from Ciara.
1. You have to be clear about what you want and what you don't want.
The power of clarity is so important, because being clear about what you do and don't want helps to create boundaries to ensure your own happiness. If you don't take the time to get clear about what you do and don't want will attract any type of behavior or random people into your life.
2. You have to do the work on yourself.
Doing the work on yourself is one of the most life lessons. Okay, hard lesson I've had to learn too. You will continue attracting the same person, circumstance, or situations if you don't do the work on yourself.
Not only what boundaries do you need to put in place, but what behaviors do you need to change. Trust me this one was a really hard one for me, because we all want to pretend we are perfect. But your circumstances cannot change until you change.
3. You have to accept where you are in life.
Accepting where you are in life is a really big one because you have to first accept that it is true you aren't where you want to be, but you know that things will get better. So many of us can be in denial about our current circumstances, but acceptance about our current situation is the first step to change it. If you don't like where you are in life, you have to be willing to change it.
4. You know there has to be something better out there.
Once you have accepted where you are in life, and you realize you want better whether its a relationship, job, or money you must visualize that there is in fact better out there for you. Fear and faith cannot occupy the same space. So it's either you believe there is better out there for you or you believe your don't deserve better. In fact believing you don't deserve better will only manifest something that isn't better. You know the saying, "if you believe it, you can achieve it", that applies here.
5. A delay is not a denial.
I don't know if this is a good example, but you know how they say you have to kiss a lot of frogs before you kiss a prince. Now I'm not saying that if you are single to kiss every guy you meet, but just because you haven't me the right one yet doesn't mean he isn't coming. Just because your career hasn't taken off the way you hoped yet, doesn't mean it isn't coming. Sometimes a setback is a setup for a major comeback.
6. You have to stand firm on your beliefs.
They say if you believe it you can achieve it. What you believe in and standing strong in your core values is so important. Ciara and Russel practiced abstinence before their marriage. Dating with a purpose was a strong core value and belief in the foundation of their relationship. So figure out what you believe in and stand for and stick with you. You don't have to settle. Decide what you believe in and achieve it.
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